Saturday, April 24, 2010
AI-MAL
budu punya manusia... dia ne kan mmg btol2 punya masalah. masih d bayangi oleh maslah2 dlu tu. urg buduh.. wasting my time and money jak :(
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Life
If you give your trust to a person who does not deserve it, you actually give him/her the power to destroy you.
"You ever heard the old saying...the enemy of my enemy is my friend?"
Do you know I hate loud noises?? Or that I can't stand it when people lie to me? Do you know I still can't find a sport I'm good at? Do you know that I think people are the worst species out there? Or that I'm in love with you?
Sometimes being afraid can show more strength than being fearless…Fear is the realization of knowing what you have to lose, and having the willpower to resist.
Freedom is not the way you speak, or act. It's the way you live your life.
I dont care what other people think of me or you, or us being together. I dont care if your the cutest guy in the world, as long as you have a great personality. I dont care about your mistakes in the past. i dont care if your rich or poor. The only thing I really care about is us being together.
Standing for what you believe in, regardless of the odds against you, and the pressure that tears at your resistance, ...means courage Keeping a smile on your face, When inside you feel like dying, for the sake of supporting others, ...means STRENGTH.
Stopping at nothing, and doing what's in your heart, you know is right,
...means DETERMINATION.
Doing more than is expected, to make another's life a little more bearable, without uttering a single complaint,...means COMPASSION.
Helping a friend in need, no matter the time or effort, to the best of your ability,
...means LOYALTY.
Giving more than you have, and expecting nothing but nothing in return,
...means SELFLESSNESS.
Holding your head high, and being the best you know you can be when life seems to fall apart at your feet, facing each difficulty with the confidence that time will bring you better tomorrows, and never giving up,
...means CONFIDENCE.
7 minutes ago
"You ever heard the old saying...the enemy of my enemy is my friend?"
Do you know I hate loud noises?? Or that I can't stand it when people lie to me? Do you know I still can't find a sport I'm good at? Do you know that I think people are the worst species out there? Or that I'm in love with you?
Sometimes being afraid can show more strength than being fearless…Fear is the realization of knowing what you have to lose, and having the willpower to resist.
Freedom is not the way you speak, or act. It's the way you live your life.
I dont care what other people think of me or you, or us being together. I dont care if your the cutest guy in the world, as long as you have a great personality. I dont care about your mistakes in the past. i dont care if your rich or poor. The only thing I really care about is us being together.
Standing for what you believe in, regardless of the odds against you, and the pressure that tears at your resistance, ...means courage Keeping a smile on your face, When inside you feel like dying, for the sake of supporting others, ...means STRENGTH.
Stopping at nothing, and doing what's in your heart, you know is right,
...means DETERMINATION.
Doing more than is expected, to make another's life a little more bearable, without uttering a single complaint,...means COMPASSION.
Helping a friend in need, no matter the time or effort, to the best of your ability,
...means LOYALTY.
Giving more than you have, and expecting nothing but nothing in return,
...means SELFLESSNESS.
Holding your head high, and being the best you know you can be when life seems to fall apart at your feet, facing each difficulty with the confidence that time will bring you better tomorrows, and never giving up,
...means CONFIDENCE.
7 minutes ago
5 Signs He Isn't Over His Ex
5 Signs He Isn't Over His Ex
by BettyConfidential.com, on Mon Apr 12, 2010 5:00am PDT
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How to tell if a guy is still hanging onto his old relationship – and what you can do to help him move on.
- Kathryn H. Cusimano, BettyConfidential.com
Do you ever get the feeling that there are three people in your relationship – you, your guy and his ex? Does he still talk or email with her often? Or maybe he holds an unhealthy grudge, or seems preoccupied with what she’s doing now? If any of these scenarios sound familiar, it may mean that he hasn’t completely let go yet. How can you tell if he’s not really over his ex? Tina B. Tessina, PhD, psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage offers five warning signs:
1. He wasted no time before jumping into his next relationship. If you started dating this guy shortly after his latest breakup, there’s a good chance he’s not completely over his ex – no matter what he says. “There are hopes and dreams we have when we get into a relationship that we lose when we lose that relationship,” says Tessina. “It takes some time [to get over those things].” She points out that men often avoid the grieving process that follows a breakup, even though it can be instrumental in helping them assess the relationship and move on. “You want to be sure he can talk about it – that he can analyze it a little bit, and can say what went wrong and what went right and what part he played in what went wrong.” But even if he isn’t quite there, it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. As Tessina explains, “It just means you need to understand that he still has some processing to do, and he’s probably going to do some of it with you.”
Read Should You Friend Exes on Facebook?
2. He fell for you before his relationship ended. These are men like John Edwards and Tiger Woods, who tell you their previous relationships are over or broken, but they still go home to their wives or girlfriends. It sounds obvious, but these guys are bad news. “It doesn’t matter if he says the relationship is bad,” Tessina says. “He has a cheating mentality.” And if he cheats on her, he probably wouldn’t have a problem with cheating on you. Even if he does eventually leave his wife or girlfriend – a very big if, by the way -- and you’re willing to give it a go with this guy, he literally hasn’t had any time on his own to process the demise of that previous relationship so you could run into the same problems as in #1, above. Bottom line: This is probably not someone you want to be with.
3. When it comes to his ex, he only deals in extremes. If your new guy can’t say his ex’s name without spitting, this is another warning sign. “If he’s talking about her constantly, and she’s either the most wonderful thing in the world or the most terrible thing in the world, but it’s unrealistic, you need to ask him about his role in the relationship,” says Tessina. There are two people in every couple, and there’s no way his ex was as great or awful as he makes her sound. “If he’s not talking about it at all, you need to say ‘I think it’s valuable to for us to talk about our past relationships so we can see what went wrong and what we need to do differently in this relationship.’”
4. He can’t break the string. There are plenty of reasons a guy may stay in touch with his ex, and they aren’t necessarily all bad. “If they have kids in common, they have to be in contact,” Tessina says. “If they were together for a long, long time, there’s also some reason for contact.” But if neither situation applies, and he still won’t stop talking to his ex, you should initiate a conversation about her – carefully. “What you don’t want to do is set yourself up against his ex,” says Tessina. Here, too, she recommends talking to him about his relationship with his ex, and what he thinks he can do better or differently in your relationship. She also suggests offering to reach out to the ex yourself, but if he’s not up for that – and if he doesn’t seem compelled to change anything about the current situation, even if it’s making you uncomfortable – that’s a major red flag. “I would slow the relationship down immediately [in those circumstances],” she says. “I’d say, ‘I can’t go further if you’re going to have a relationship with somebody that has to be behind my back.’”
Read 5 Signs He’s Not the Guy For You
5. He obsesses over the remnants of the relationship. If he’s always checking her Facebook profile or you catch him poring over old pictures, you could also have a problem. “He’s not finished, he hasn’t done his grieving,” says Tessina. “You have to understand that if you stay in a relationship with him, you’re going to be part of that grieving process.” As Tessina points out, when you’re in a relationship you talk about just about everything. Whether it’s work, friends or family, there’s always something to discuss over dinner, and past relationships should be no different. Let him know you’re open to talking about his exes. Discussing this relationship could help him work through his feelings and move forward – and may even bring the two of you closer together.
If your guy hasn’t completely let go of his ex, proceed with caution – but know that your relationship isn’t necessarily a lost cause. He may want to be with you, but needs just a bit more time to deal with his breakup. The key to making it work is both of you being willing to talk openly about his old relationship and his feelings about his ex. And if, when all is said and done, he just can't let go, you may have to be the one who moves on.
Tell Us: Is your partner still attached to his ex?
Kathryn H. Cusimano is an assistant editor at BettyConfidential.
by BettyConfidential.com, on Mon Apr 12, 2010 5:00am PDT
486 CommentsPost a CommentRead More from This Author »Report Abuse
How to tell if a guy is still hanging onto his old relationship – and what you can do to help him move on.
- Kathryn H. Cusimano, BettyConfidential.com
Do you ever get the feeling that there are three people in your relationship – you, your guy and his ex? Does he still talk or email with her often? Or maybe he holds an unhealthy grudge, or seems preoccupied with what she’s doing now? If any of these scenarios sound familiar, it may mean that he hasn’t completely let go yet. How can you tell if he’s not really over his ex? Tina B. Tessina, PhD, psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage offers five warning signs:
1. He wasted no time before jumping into his next relationship. If you started dating this guy shortly after his latest breakup, there’s a good chance he’s not completely over his ex – no matter what he says. “There are hopes and dreams we have when we get into a relationship that we lose when we lose that relationship,” says Tessina. “It takes some time [to get over those things].” She points out that men often avoid the grieving process that follows a breakup, even though it can be instrumental in helping them assess the relationship and move on. “You want to be sure he can talk about it – that he can analyze it a little bit, and can say what went wrong and what went right and what part he played in what went wrong.” But even if he isn’t quite there, it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. As Tessina explains, “It just means you need to understand that he still has some processing to do, and he’s probably going to do some of it with you.”
Read Should You Friend Exes on Facebook?
2. He fell for you before his relationship ended. These are men like John Edwards and Tiger Woods, who tell you their previous relationships are over or broken, but they still go home to their wives or girlfriends. It sounds obvious, but these guys are bad news. “It doesn’t matter if he says the relationship is bad,” Tessina says. “He has a cheating mentality.” And if he cheats on her, he probably wouldn’t have a problem with cheating on you. Even if he does eventually leave his wife or girlfriend – a very big if, by the way -- and you’re willing to give it a go with this guy, he literally hasn’t had any time on his own to process the demise of that previous relationship so you could run into the same problems as in #1, above. Bottom line: This is probably not someone you want to be with.
3. When it comes to his ex, he only deals in extremes. If your new guy can’t say his ex’s name without spitting, this is another warning sign. “If he’s talking about her constantly, and she’s either the most wonderful thing in the world or the most terrible thing in the world, but it’s unrealistic, you need to ask him about his role in the relationship,” says Tessina. There are two people in every couple, and there’s no way his ex was as great or awful as he makes her sound. “If he’s not talking about it at all, you need to say ‘I think it’s valuable to for us to talk about our past relationships so we can see what went wrong and what we need to do differently in this relationship.’”
4. He can’t break the string. There are plenty of reasons a guy may stay in touch with his ex, and they aren’t necessarily all bad. “If they have kids in common, they have to be in contact,” Tessina says. “If they were together for a long, long time, there’s also some reason for contact.” But if neither situation applies, and he still won’t stop talking to his ex, you should initiate a conversation about her – carefully. “What you don’t want to do is set yourself up against his ex,” says Tessina. Here, too, she recommends talking to him about his relationship with his ex, and what he thinks he can do better or differently in your relationship. She also suggests offering to reach out to the ex yourself, but if he’s not up for that – and if he doesn’t seem compelled to change anything about the current situation, even if it’s making you uncomfortable – that’s a major red flag. “I would slow the relationship down immediately [in those circumstances],” she says. “I’d say, ‘I can’t go further if you’re going to have a relationship with somebody that has to be behind my back.’”
Read 5 Signs He’s Not the Guy For You
5. He obsesses over the remnants of the relationship. If he’s always checking her Facebook profile or you catch him poring over old pictures, you could also have a problem. “He’s not finished, he hasn’t done his grieving,” says Tessina. “You have to understand that if you stay in a relationship with him, you’re going to be part of that grieving process.” As Tessina points out, when you’re in a relationship you talk about just about everything. Whether it’s work, friends or family, there’s always something to discuss over dinner, and past relationships should be no different. Let him know you’re open to talking about his exes. Discussing this relationship could help him work through his feelings and move forward – and may even bring the two of you closer together.
If your guy hasn’t completely let go of his ex, proceed with caution – but know that your relationship isn’t necessarily a lost cause. He may want to be with you, but needs just a bit more time to deal with his breakup. The key to making it work is both of you being willing to talk openly about his old relationship and his feelings about his ex. And if, when all is said and done, he just can't let go, you may have to be the one who moves on.
Tell Us: Is your partner still attached to his ex?
Kathryn H. Cusimano is an assistant editor at BettyConfidential.
Saturday, April 3, 2010
WHY?
Salamz 1 Malaysia, 1 Dunia, 1 J & Semua Salam Kayaan Dlm Dunia Ini.... Well, lama btol sdh Sy nda menulis dalam blog ini. Mcm2 maw d kongsi, tp kerna keBIZIan dgn keja & peribadi, terpaksa Sy tangguhkan...
Hari ne, Sy maw bicara tentang WHY. Kenapa, in Bahasa... well, very subjektif kan! Macam2 benda happening recently. and sometimes satu soalan kan POP UP into ma mind. WHY???
Tp stil tdk dpt jawapan. Sy bertanya dgn anak2, kawan2 keja, kawan2 rapat, big bosses, kwn2 di bahagian Hi-Level Management di pelbagai syarikat di seluruh negara, tp stil x dpt jawapan yang sepatutnya menjadi jawapan. Di jawap dengan jawapan yang KURANG / TIDAK TEPAT langsung or simply di jawap dgn soalan semula.
i guess, i concluded it this way. Sy harapkan jawapan tp jawapan itu terpesong dari soalan. Apa guna mesyuarat ber JAM2 tapi stil tdk jumpa jalan penyelesaiannya. Apa guna diskusi berjam2 tp masih tidak mencapai kata sepakat. sebaliknya, penuh dgn kata2 yang PEDAS utk di dengar dan asyik tunding menunding jari pada orang lain.. But JANGAN PERNAH LUPA, BILA KITA TUNJUK ORANG LAIN ADA 4 JARI LAIN YANG MENUNDING BALIK KEARAH KITA!!!!
Apa2 pn, bukan maw bilang Sy ne baik, ataw hebat. Jauh sekali ada perasaan begitu dlm diri Sy. Cuma lifestyle yang amat BERBEZA di sini betul2 membuatkan Sy keliru. Stil adjusting, i guess.
Payahnya jgk kan, tp that life. As always, Sy tetap berpegang pada satu. EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON, FOR GOOD OR FOR BAD, ONLY HIM, GOD ABOVE KNOWS... AND THE FATE HE HAD GIVEN, WORTH ALL THE PAIN AND GAIN WE WILL BE GETTING LATER ON. WELL, ONE SWEET DAY, i might say, insya ALLAH.. amin :)
Hari ne, Sy maw bicara tentang WHY. Kenapa, in Bahasa... well, very subjektif kan! Macam2 benda happening recently. and sometimes satu soalan kan POP UP into ma mind. WHY???
Tp stil tdk dpt jawapan. Sy bertanya dgn anak2, kawan2 keja, kawan2 rapat, big bosses, kwn2 di bahagian Hi-Level Management di pelbagai syarikat di seluruh negara, tp stil x dpt jawapan yang sepatutnya menjadi jawapan. Di jawap dengan jawapan yang KURANG / TIDAK TEPAT langsung or simply di jawap dgn soalan semula.
i guess, i concluded it this way. Sy harapkan jawapan tp jawapan itu terpesong dari soalan. Apa guna mesyuarat ber JAM2 tapi stil tdk jumpa jalan penyelesaiannya. Apa guna diskusi berjam2 tp masih tidak mencapai kata sepakat. sebaliknya, penuh dgn kata2 yang PEDAS utk di dengar dan asyik tunding menunding jari pada orang lain.. But JANGAN PERNAH LUPA, BILA KITA TUNJUK ORANG LAIN ADA 4 JARI LAIN YANG MENUNDING BALIK KEARAH KITA!!!!
Apa2 pn, bukan maw bilang Sy ne baik, ataw hebat. Jauh sekali ada perasaan begitu dlm diri Sy. Cuma lifestyle yang amat BERBEZA di sini betul2 membuatkan Sy keliru. Stil adjusting, i guess.
Payahnya jgk kan, tp that life. As always, Sy tetap berpegang pada satu. EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON, FOR GOOD OR FOR BAD, ONLY HIM, GOD ABOVE KNOWS... AND THE FATE HE HAD GIVEN, WORTH ALL THE PAIN AND GAIN WE WILL BE GETTING LATER ON. WELL, ONE SWEET DAY, i might say, insya ALLAH.. amin :)
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