my Hubby

i am his now.. my benny syg me, cherish me, care abt me and protecting me all the time. his love is rare, and i guess wut kak tny says is wrong. i am crazy over him and this happiness really brings me rocket hi to the sky :)

am going crazy, in love wif my abg

coz carik jek pmpuan yg ada career
all they want i juz company
*is
financial tuh x penting
u ma c ingat x?
they all laugh abt it

yes betul.. but sometime kita kata ok..but hati siapa yg tahu

seriously, me takut sendiri
takut nda sanggup bila dah kawen nnt
as for now, me kluar dgn dia hari2
so he's wif me everyday
and one thing my family akn object us definately
after kawen, kena bagi2 masa

masa bercinta memang sedap but bila tak kahwin lain ceritanya.. itu reality nya

byk pengorbanan, if you think itu suratan u..redha je.. but still need to think and think and think...

timbang betul2... jgn dengar cakap org..do what the best for you.. yg nak kahwin u.. but u kena belajar sharing lah..
the best thing talk with dia punya wife.. kalau wife dia setuju.. it will be no problem.. yg problem selalunya husband yg menipu wife ni

lepas satu pembohongan ke satu lagi pembohongan.. itu yg tak best tu, why don't you face to face dgn wife dia dulu.. minta restu

sorry dear...i could sum all this and say
he is bull shit
that is from deep or my heart
ok btw
u meet his wife?

mcm ni dear
if he really sincere to u
u got to face this
meet his wife
in-person
talk to her
tell her what is ur feeling
etc
the see what her respond
but
u cannot just assume and sum
for just one time meeting
i belive
dear i tak nk use this word
but im so sorry to use it here
he look like oppotunist
he seeing u like a desperate
u shower u with his bunga2 word
love u syg u
caring
bla2
demmm it bull sit
shit
hahaha
so sorry
he a man i know what man into
he married not one...but trice...
he has knowledge and experiace
to him...u just skali petik dapat...
again om not againt him
but i can feel
his love is not worth to u
and he's word ...not all but most is hehehe lying
take ur time dear
get known him well
know his wife
u not going to marry him for a year or 7 years
even u started worried
based on his passed history
u may get him as what he commit to back on track
but as human...
to err is human
is u r really and ready to face and to adapt and to accept whatever will happen in future because of marrying hubby org...
then i could say...congratulation

life is not about hari siang sahaja dear
life ada siang ada mlm ada panas ada hujan
really nk buat solat istikharah
do it for 3 or 7 day in consequnce
klu u still nmpk him
or he still nmpk urbuat skali dgn tahajjud
lps tahujjud
sola taubat 2 rokaat
then buat istikharah
then this a good sign

sbb 2/3 mlm lbh kurang jam 3 or 4 am
solat di 2/3 mlm lbh afdhol sbb
mlm yg sunyi so u bole mohon n khuyuk n fokus atas yg u wish
3am or 4am
is the bes time
tp kat sabah
subuh awal kan
so dlm 2 or 3 pagi

hhe di lamun cinta
itu biasa
do the craziest thing

dear
jgn lupa
meet his wife, do isthikarah, n most important
let ur family know this

aduhai

my last post was on sept.. and now its nov. at lst, i manage 2 make d changes in my life. it it is bery challenging. work and all.. but am happy

i got my kelly and i got my benny. but i know its dangerous. cant play wif fire. i love my kelly. he's all i wanted in a guy, complete packages, but as benny pointed, he's not that perfect. his flaws, obviuosly...

my benny, sweet understanding and all.. but more fire involves here.. i even cried onces cause of him. at least for my kelly, i only miss him but this ones, involving SO MANY HEARTS to be broken. i manage 2 maintain my distance so far, but i miss benny badly when i dont get to see him, after i got back. gosh i miss them both.

fire and fire, burning me.i dowanna b coal later. LOL stupid! :D

My Kelly

another new episods in my life.he came 2 my life, making me smile again. pamper me as i wanted too, i got my very own PL now and i am so happy abt it. he came juznow and rasmi the PL and after that, its now mine. syg sgt dgn dia. i wish its easier but its not.

he's not meant 2 b mine :(

SYAWAL

Perwatakannya keras. Hatinya keras. Dia tidak suka dikalahkan oleh orang lain. Hal ini membahayakan hidupnya, oleh itu ibu bapanya perlulah mendidiknya dengan betul bagi menghilangkan tabiat buruknya itu. Jika tidak kehidupannya menjadi susah kerana perangai keras hatinya, dan dia selalu bergaduh terutamanya dalam hal mencari rezeki.

kelahiran bulan oktober

Kelahiran pada bulan Oktober.
Sifat orang yang lahir pada bulan Oktober biasanya:
1: Suka berbual.
2: Suka orang yang sayang padanya.
3: Suka ambil jln tengah
4: Sangat menawan & sopan santun.
5: Kecantikan luar & dalam.
6: Tidak pandai berbohong & berpura-pura.
7: Mudah rasa simpati, baik dan mementingkan kawan.
8: Sentiasa berkawan.
9: Hatinya mudah terusik tetapi merajuknya tak lama.
10: Cepat marah.
11: Macam pentingkan diri sendiri.
12: Tidak menolong orang kecuali diminta.
13: Suka melihat dari perspektifnya sendiri.
14: Tidak suka terima pandangan orang lain.
15: Emosi yang mudah terusik.
16: Suka berangan & pandai bercakap.
Kajian Oleh: Dato Dr Haji Fadzilah Kamsah

AI-MAL

budu punya manusia... dia ne kan mmg btol2 punya masalah. masih d bayangi oleh maslah2 dlu tu. urg buduh.. wasting my time and money jak :(

Life

If you give your trust to a person who does not deserve it, you actually give him/her the power to destroy you.

"You ever heard the old saying...the enemy of my enemy is my friend?"

Do you know I hate loud noises?? Or that I can't stand it when people lie to me? Do you know I still can't find a sport I'm good at? Do you know that I think people are the worst species out there? Or that I'm in love with you?

Sometimes being afraid can show more strength than being fearless…Fear is the realization of knowing what you have to lose, and having the willpower to resist.

Freedom is not the way you speak, or act. It's the way you live your life.

I dont care what other people think of me or you, or us being together. I dont care if your the cutest guy in the world, as long as you have a great personality. I dont care about your mistakes in the past. i dont care if your rich or poor. The only thing I really care about is us being together.

Standing for what you believe in, regardless of the odds against you, and the pressure that tears at your resistance, ...means courage Keeping a smile on your face, When inside you feel like dying, for the sake of supporting others, ...means STRENGTH.

Stopping at nothing, and doing what's in your heart, you know is right,
...means DETERMINATION.

Doing more than is expected, to make another's life a little more bearable, without uttering a single complaint,...means COMPASSION.

Helping a friend in need, no matter the time or effort, to the best of your ability,
...means LOYALTY.

Giving more than you have, and expecting nothing but nothing in return,
...means SELFLESSNESS.

Holding your head high, and being the best you know you can be when life seems to fall apart at your feet, facing each difficulty with the confidence that time will bring you better tomorrows, and never giving up,
...means CONFIDENCE.
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5 Signs He Isn't Over His Ex

5 Signs He Isn't Over His Ex

by BettyConfidential.com, on Mon Apr 12, 2010 5:00am PDT
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How to tell if a guy is still hanging onto his old relationship – and what you can do to help him move on.
- Kathryn H. Cusimano, BettyConfidential.com

Do you ever get the feeling that there are three people in your relationship – you, your guy and his ex? Does he still talk or email with her often? Or maybe he holds an unhealthy grudge, or seems preoccupied with what she’s doing now? If any of these scenarios sound familiar, it may mean that he hasn’t completely let go yet. How can you tell if he’s not really over his ex? Tina B. Tessina, PhD, psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage offers five warning signs:

1. He wasted no time before jumping into his next relationship. If you started dating this guy shortly after his latest breakup, there’s a good chance he’s not completely over his ex – no matter what he says. “There are hopes and dreams we have when we get into a relationship that we lose when we lose that relationship,” says Tessina. “It takes some time [to get over those things].” She points out that men often avoid the grieving process that follows a breakup, even though it can be instrumental in helping them assess the relationship and move on. “You want to be sure he can talk about it – that he can analyze it a little bit, and can say what went wrong and what went right and what part he played in what went wrong.” But even if he isn’t quite there, it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. As Tessina explains, “It just means you need to understand that he still has some processing to do, and he’s probably going to do some of it with you.”

Read Should You Friend Exes on Facebook?

2. He fell for you before his relationship ended. These are men like John Edwards and Tiger Woods, who tell you their previous relationships are over or broken, but they still go home to their wives or girlfriends. It sounds obvious, but these guys are bad news. “It doesn’t matter if he says the relationship is bad,” Tessina says. “He has a cheating mentality.” And if he cheats on her, he probably wouldn’t have a problem with cheating on you. Even if he does eventually leave his wife or girlfriend – a very big if, by the way -- and you’re willing to give it a go with this guy, he literally hasn’t had any time on his own to process the demise of that previous relationship so you could run into the same problems as in #1, above. Bottom line: This is probably not someone you want to be with.

3. When it comes to his ex, he only deals in extremes. If your new guy can’t say his ex’s name without spitting, this is another warning sign. “If he’s talking about her constantly, and she’s either the most wonderful thing in the world or the most terrible thing in the world, but it’s unrealistic, you need to ask him about his role in the relationship,” says Tessina. There are two people in every couple, and there’s no way his ex was as great or awful as he makes her sound. “If he’s not talking about it at all, you need to say ‘I think it’s valuable to for us to talk about our past relationships so we can see what went wrong and what we need to do differently in this relationship.’”

4. He can’t break the string. There are plenty of reasons a guy may stay in touch with his ex, and they aren’t necessarily all bad. “If they have kids in common, they have to be in contact,” Tessina says. “If they were together for a long, long time, there’s also some reason for contact.” But if neither situation applies, and he still won’t stop talking to his ex, you should initiate a conversation about her – carefully. “What you don’t want to do is set yourself up against his ex,” says Tessina. Here, too, she recommends talking to him about his relationship with his ex, and what he thinks he can do better or differently in your relationship. She also suggests offering to reach out to the ex yourself, but if he’s not up for that – and if he doesn’t seem compelled to change anything about the current situation, even if it’s making you uncomfortable – that’s a major red flag. “I would slow the relationship down immediately [in those circumstances],” she says. “I’d say, ‘I can’t go further if you’re going to have a relationship with somebody that has to be behind my back.’”

Read 5 Signs He’s Not the Guy For You

5. He obsesses over the remnants of the relationship. If he’s always checking her Facebook profile or you catch him poring over old pictures, you could also have a problem. “He’s not finished, he hasn’t done his grieving,” says Tessina. “You have to understand that if you stay in a relationship with him, you’re going to be part of that grieving process.” As Tessina points out, when you’re in a relationship you talk about just about everything. Whether it’s work, friends or family, there’s always something to discuss over dinner, and past relationships should be no different. Let him know you’re open to talking about his exes. Discussing this relationship could help him work through his feelings and move forward – and may even bring the two of you closer together.

If your guy hasn’t completely let go of his ex, proceed with caution – but know that your relationship isn’t necessarily a lost cause. He may want to be with you, but needs just a bit more time to deal with his breakup. The key to making it work is both of you being willing to talk openly about his old relationship and his feelings about his ex. And if, when all is said and done, he just can't let go, you may have to be the one who moves on.

Tell Us: Is your partner still attached to his ex?

Kathryn H. Cusimano is an assistant editor at BettyConfidential.

WHY?

Salamz 1 Malaysia, 1 Dunia, 1 J & Semua Salam Kayaan Dlm Dunia Ini.... Well, lama btol sdh Sy nda menulis dalam blog ini. Mcm2 maw d kongsi, tp kerna keBIZIan dgn keja & peribadi, terpaksa Sy tangguhkan...

Hari ne, Sy maw bicara tentang WHY. Kenapa, in Bahasa... well, very subjektif kan! Macam2 benda happening recently. and sometimes satu soalan kan POP UP into ma mind. WHY???

Tp stil tdk dpt jawapan. Sy bertanya dgn anak2, kawan2 keja, kawan2 rapat, big bosses, kwn2 di bahagian Hi-Level Management di pelbagai syarikat di seluruh negara, tp stil x dpt jawapan yang sepatutnya menjadi jawapan. Di jawap dengan jawapan yang KURANG / TIDAK TEPAT langsung or simply di jawap dgn soalan semula.

i guess, i concluded it this way. Sy harapkan jawapan tp jawapan itu terpesong dari soalan. Apa guna mesyuarat ber JAM2 tapi stil tdk jumpa jalan penyelesaiannya. Apa guna diskusi berjam2 tp masih tidak mencapai kata sepakat. sebaliknya, penuh dgn kata2 yang PEDAS utk di dengar dan asyik tunding menunding jari pada orang lain.. But JANGAN PERNAH LUPA, BILA KITA TUNJUK ORANG LAIN ADA 4 JARI LAIN YANG MENUNDING BALIK KEARAH KITA!!!!

Apa2 pn, bukan maw bilang Sy ne baik, ataw hebat. Jauh sekali ada perasaan begitu dlm diri Sy. Cuma lifestyle yang amat BERBEZA di sini betul2 membuatkan Sy keliru. Stil adjusting, i guess.

Payahnya jgk kan, tp that life. As always, Sy tetap berpegang pada satu. EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON, FOR GOOD OR FOR BAD, ONLY HIM, GOD ABOVE KNOWS... AND THE FATE HE HAD GIVEN, WORTH ALL THE PAIN AND GAIN WE WILL BE GETTING LATER ON. WELL, ONE SWEET DAY, i might say, insya ALLAH.. amin :)

suatu yang berlaku tak mungkin akan berlaku tanpa izin dan perancangan dari Allah yang Maha Kuasa. Dijadikan manusia pelbagai karenah sebagai satu ujian, sabar kah kita dengan cobaanya. Bagi org mukmin itu semuanya baik, jika mempeolehi nikmat dia bersykur dan ditimpa bencana (suatu yg tidak disukainya, dia sabar" maka kedua2 itu adalah baik baginya!

manusia takkan berhenti berckp utk org yg cantik manis dan memiliki segalanya dlm hidup.itu lumrah-yg penting kita bhagia-itu aje. suatu ari,semoga Allah memberikan keinsafan pada dia.org yg busy body ni,actually haram hukumnya. sesuatu musibah yg Allah kasik adalah itu menguji tahap kesabaran dan keimanan seseorang-jika dia melepasi tahap itu-itulah sebaik2 manusia.


sejauh mana perjalanan kita dan sekuat mana tenga kita untuk bergaduh tidak akan menyelesaikan maslah malah memburukan keadaan lagi. biarlah apa yang berlaku kita hadapi dgn tenang dan sabar.iam dan maaf bukan bererti kita kalah tapi sebenarnya kita menang untuk mendamaikan keadaan. kalau org 'bodoh' takkan kita akn jd 'bodoh' juga... dan biasanya yg 'terpekik' dan 'melolong' ini adalah manusia yg penakut dan kalah dlm ego mereka sdri.. utk menunjukkan mereka tu punya kuasa, jalan yg terbaik adalah 'tikam dari belakang' lah...

BERINGATLAH DENGAN SEGALA TINGKAH LAKU KITA SEBELUM PERKARA SEDEMIKIAN JATUH MENIMPA MUKA SENDIRI.. JANGAN SUDAH TERHANTUK BARU MAHU MENGADAH !!!!

Allah tak kejam..dia maha mengetahui. perempuan yg terhormat tu sebenarnya ada 'penyakit' hati..busuk hati, dengki. kita doa yg baik2 saja semuga Allah pudarkanlah perasaan itu dan jgn lah suka menabur fitnah. kita org perempuan..tidak baik mengaibkan org lain. if you are in her shoe,how do u feel?


abar lagi..sesungguhnya Allah akan naikkan darjat seseorg...sabar k? to Allah we seek..

banyakkan istighfar, sabar...jan lupa doa' (doakan org yg SUKA bawa atau mereka2 cerita ini agar diberi hidayah dariNya agar tidak terlambat utk org yg sebegini utk bertaubat)siapa pun kita yg lalu tak perlu lah sesalkan, muhasabah diri itu lebih baik..yang paling penting..kita yg sekarang adalah kita yang org kenal dan org senangi,kann? so..fikir yg positif sahaja.. "lagi banyak org tu provok kita dgn cerita dulu2 yg buruk.. lagi bertimbun lah dosa dia.."... dia obses dgn kita, dia cemburu dgn jalan hidup kita..itu saja..

apa yang membezakan kita dengan individu lain adalah bukan dari USIA kerana usia tertakluk kepada angka dan bukan dari JANTINA kerana jantina hanya membezakan fizikal semata tapi BEZA YANG NYATA adalah dari cara kita berfikir dan menilai sesuatu perkara pada KEBAIKKANNYA..... waAllahua'lam


kita sama sekali tidak mempunyai kuasa untuk mengetahui apa yang terjadi di masa hadapan, tetapi kita mempunyai daya untuk bertanya kepada Allah SWT tentang apa yang kita lakukan itu benar-benar terbaik ataupun tidak iaitu dengan banyakkan berdoa serta bersembahyang istikharah. Berlapanglah dada kepada Allah SWT, kerana Dia yang menentukan segalanya.

Seperti firman Allah SWT "Jangan takut, jangan berdukacita" (Al-Ankabut 29:33).

Setiap 'langkah' kita itu jadikanlah satu pengajaran yang terbaik kerana 'guru' yang terbaik adalah dari pengalaman kita sendiri. Seperti yang tertulis dalam firman-Nya di atas, 'jangan takut' kerana Dia sentiasa bersama-sama dengan kita dan 'Jangan berdukacita' kerana kedukaan itu boleh menghapuskan dosa serta menyucikan diri dari kesilapan kita yang lepas. Sesungguhnya Allah SWT mempunyai satu rahsia yang kita tidak ketahui namun sentiasalah berfikiran positif dengan hikmah disebalik semua kejadian.

WAllahua'lam bissawab...

wah

wah.. life had been challenging.... wif no pay & all.. more burden 2 carry on my shoulders and its getting harden. i miss my C like nobody's business... no one 2 talk 2 abt life already, and many more... fwens, come and go.. care n love become hate n hurt.

it is me or juz wut?? i cant figure it out..

well, its been a month since i last spoken 2 u. coz of lappy wasnt well. i miss this moment, but i miss my C the most. he would deifnately b here 4 me, if he could but i noe he juz cant. wuts goin on wif me? life hasnt been easy, tho. happiness and sorrow, comes and go... challenges given 2 me by ALLAH had been coming and some made me srong, made me learn and many more..

My C

I do appreciate the care u've shown, the love u gave and the guidance u've offered.... and i do realise that U.. ma bestfwen, a wonderful person and i do care abt u.. and i love u the same...

these few days had been quiet.. u're somewher else, across the sea and i really misses u.. every day, every hour, every minutes and every second even every heartbeat of my life... u're such a wonderful person, a bestfwen that i needed.... wish u're my mr right BUT i know my limit... u're a fwen and u're my fwen FOREVER..

god i really misses the time we've spent... talking about life and fwens around us... looking at the pics u've taken and also many wonderful things.... i misses the way you chat, the way u care and even the way u've warn me abt praying... i'm so bored without you.... and all..most of all

I MISS U MY BEST FWEN....

success and me..

Bkn P'hormatan Ku Mahu, Bkn Kemuliaan Ku Puja, Bkn Juga P'hargaan Ku Tebus Ataupun Pujian Ku Agungkan Tapi Cukuplah Sekadar Memahami Diriku Yang Senantiasa Mengejar Impian Di Dalam Memperbaiki Diri Ini... (I know the price of success: dedication, hard work, and a devotion to the things you want to see happen.)

prayers fr C

YA ALLAH BERIKAN KEKUATAN KEPADA SAHABAT KU INI..YANG KU SAYANG..BERIKAN KEPADANYA RAHMATMU..BERIKAN KESENANGAN KEPADANYA DALAM SEGALA APA PUN YANG DI LAKUKANNYA..BERIKANNYA MATA HATI AGAR DAPAT DIA MENENTUKAN JALAN2 YANG LEBIH BAIK DIKALA DIA TENGAH BUNTU...SESUNGGUHNYA ENGKAU LAH YANG MAHA MELIHAT MAHA MENGETAHUI DAN MAHA BESAR..AMIN YA RABBAL ALAMIN

today

hari ne, hari yg sgt memenatkan...

pagi2 kena marah oleh madam and siap kena warning lg tu... kena suruh wat tu wat ni ldm PSS... well, its ma fault la.. and kedapatan tu lg mkn dpn budal time perbincangan... habis la huhu

tensen gila ne coz ne keja sgt memenatkan... and sgt menyakitkan hati... tensen btol liao :(

tunggu la esok, kalo meeting semuanya ok... hopefully... English Panel meeting td went well and esok c how la mcmana :(

Riwayat Al-Tarmizi

Daripada Abu Hurairah r.a., Nabi s.a.w. bersabda: "Allah s.w.t. berfirman: 'Wahai anak Adam! Luangkanlah dirimu untuk beribadat: nescaya Aku akan penuhkan dadamu dengan kecukupan, dan Aku menutup kefakiran kamu. Jika kamu tidak melakukannya nescaya Aku membuatkan diri kamu sentiasa dalam keresahan dan Aku tidak menutup... kefakiran kamu.'" (Riwayat al-Tirmizi).

today...

today...

so many things happen... its hard to see situations like this...

but one thing that i knoe... separuh jiwaku pergi... :(

Amalan Al-Fatihah :D

Dianjurkan juga amalan membaca Al-Fatihah sebanyak 41 kali, insyallh dapat mengubati sakit mata, sakit gigi, sakit perut dan lain-lain.

Setengah ulama menganjurkan membaca 40 kali setiap selepas solat Maghrib dan sunat untuk memohon sesuatu yang baik. Insyallah hajat akan terkabul.

Amalkan membaca Al-Fatihah sebanyak 70 kali setiap hari dalam keadaan berwudhuk dan tiupkan pada air lalu diminum selama 7 hari. Insyallah akan mudah memperolehi ilmu pengetahuan; disamping itu dapat mengawal hati dan fikiran daripada perkara-perkara yang merosakan.

Abg Am 2

Dan jangan sekali-kali kamu mengatakan terhadap sesuatu: "Sesungguhnya aku akan mengerjakan itu besok pagi. Kecuali (dengan menyebut): "Insyallah." Dan ingatlah kepada Tuhanmu jika kamu lupa dan katakanlah: "Mudah-mudahan Tuhanku akan memberiku petunjuk kepada yang lebih dekat kebenarannya daripada ini." (Al-Quraan, Su...rah Al-Khafi Ayat 23 & 24).

Abg Am

Ya Allah! "Berilah kekayaan aku dengan ilmu, berilah aku perhiasan dengan sifat yang tidak lekas marah, muliakanlah aku dengan taqwa, dan indahkanlah aku dengan kesejahteraan" (Hadis Riwayat Tirmizi & Ibnu Majah).

A New HIM

namaya kekasih terangku... tp he's a nice fwen... and he always make my day :D